ASKING, "THEN WHAT....?

This is a question that you will ask yourself when building a friendship with someone who may be experiencing homelessness. This question will help you understand your barriers and capacity when helping our neighbors in need.

The answer to "Then what?" is not always easy. The more you practice telling people your expectations in a kind, compassionate way, keeping in mind that the response may not always be positive, it will help you to avoid burnout and maintain friendships.

How does this look in practice? Let's say you become friends with an unhoused neighbor, and you want to invite them to share a meal with you at a restaurant. Then what?

What if they have a lot of their belongings that they cannot store anywhere? What if they don’t feel comfortable wearing their clothing inside the establishment? What if they choose multiple items or the most expensive item on the menu? What if they are not used to being around crowds? What if they finish eating and don't leave for a while? Then what?

I understand this may sound daunting; however, I want to help you avoid situations for which you are unprepared so they don't become barriers to building community. Additionally, I don't want you to become disoriented or frustrated and do or say things you might regret later.